Apr 3, 2012

Women Around the Messenger of Allah

By Hamda Adaweh 


MashAllah, the women during the time of Prophet Muhammad Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam were truly extraordinary. InshAllah, I will try to focus around two of the wives of the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam. These women were so special because Allah subhaana wa ta’alaa has chosen all of them to exist during Prophet Muhammad Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam’s time. Who were these women and what made them so special? Nowadays, we see female actresses and musicians on the cover of millions of magazines. Unfortunately, many young muslimahs look up to these women as role models. Before I started practicing Islam, I was really insecure about myself. I felt that I had to impress everybody, but it made me feel so empty inside. I even wore a lot of makeup because I thought I was not pretty enough. It was a sad and depressing time in my life.We should already know that we are beautiful and we do not need to expose ourselves to get attention. I was recently reading about this trend on YouTube that some young girls are making “Am I pretty or ugly?” videos. It is sad that these young girls need the approval of others, but we should make Allah subhaana wa ta’alaa our main priority. So InshAllah, this will be a reminder for all of us.

The first woman that comes to mind would definitely be Khadija bint Khuwaylid. When the Quran was first being revealed to the Prophet Muhammad Sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, he was so frightened. The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam came running from Mount Hira and told Khadija radi Allahu anha to cover him up. Khadija radi Allahu anha was the one who comforted him and she was the first woman to embrace Islam. SubhanAllah! What an amazing woman! The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam had immense love and affection for her. Khadija radi Allahu anha never stopped Prophet Muhammad sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam from calling the people of Makkah towards Islam. She knew the risks and consequences that could happen.

SubhanAllah, just think about the situation of Khadija radi Allahu anha. The people of Makkah were polytheists. Some people even tried to kill the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam, but that did not stop her from spreading Islam. Khadija radi Allahu anha was a woman of eeman and taqwa. When I feel that my eeman is getting low, I always think about the trials that the companions during the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam went through. Some of these beautiful companions were tortured or killed at the hands of the disbelievers. I always think about this verse in Surah Talaq Ayahs 2-3.

And whoever fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. And will provide for him from where he does not expect. And whoever relies upon Allah - then He is sufficient for him. Indeed, Allah will accomplish His purpose. Allah has already set for everything a [decreed] extent.

Another woman that comes to mind would be Zaynab bint Jahsh radi Allahu anha. I personally chose this female companion because of her level of piety. She is well known for her extreme generosity to the poor. She is also known for her devoutness towards her prayers.

In a hadith narrated by Anas ibn Malik that once the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) entered the mosque and found a rope hanging down between two of the pillars, and so he said, "What is this?" He was told, "It is for Zaynab. She prays, and when she loses concentration or feels tired, she holds onto it." At this time the Prophet said, "Untie it. Pray as long as you feel fresh, but when you lose concentration or become tired, you should stop."

Aisha radi Allahu anha also said about Zaynab "I have never seen a woman so pure as Zaynab, so God-fearing, so truthful, so attentive to family ties, so generous, so self-sacrificing in everyday life, so charitable, and thus so close to Allah, the Exalted." SubhanAllah! A’ishah radi Allahu anha narrates a hadith about Zaynab bint Jahsh’s generosity.

Narrated by 'A'ishah ( radi Allahu anha) Some of the wives of the Prophet (pbuh) asked him, "Who amongst us will be the first to follow you (i.e. die after you)?" He said, "Whoever has the longest hand.".. So, they started measuring their hands with a stick and Sauda Bint Tham'a's hand turned out to be the longest. When Zainab bint Jahsh died first of all his wives, in the caliphate of 'Umar, we came to know that the long hand was a symbol of practicing charity, so she was the first to follow the Prophet (pbuh) and she used to love to practice charity. Sauda died later in the caliphate of Muawiya. (Bukhari Vol. 2, Hadith No. 501)

We should all look up to the wives of the Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam and the women that lived during his time as role models. They are truly special and inspirational women mashAllah. These women worked for Jannah and they devoted their entire life to this religion. We should not be much concerned of this worldly life because it is only temporary. We should put in our efforts towards Jannah because it will last forever. Wallahi, Islam is very simple and easy. It is just the people who make it complicated for themselves and others. It is not hard to practice Islam and we have nothing to lose. We are pleasing Allah subhaana wa ta’alaa. There is nothing in this world that is better than pleasing Allah subhana wa ta’alaa because we know that Jannah is our reward. In hadith Qudsi (sacred hadith), Allah subhaana wa ta’alaa says:

“Whosoever shows enmity to someone devoted to Me, I shall be at war with him. My servant draws not near to Me with anything more loved by Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My servant continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I shall love him. When I love him I am his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it. I do not hesitate about anything as much as I hesitate about [seizing] the soul of My faithful servant: he hates death and I hate hurting him.” It was related by al-Bukhari.


this is not a comment rather this is a question for which i need an urgent answer. a person in my relations strongly asserts that when ayahs related to talaq were revealed Rasool Allah SAW had 10 wives and all except 4 surrendered their conjugal rights to be divided among the young and most loved wives of Nabi SAW. Their niyah was to remain the wives of the prophet SAW even in Jannah. So they told Nabi SAW not to give TALAQ to them and in return they will divide their rights among four wives. Is this true. Can u clear my doubt?

I know that Sawdah radiallahuanha gave up her nights to Aishah radiallahuanha, but have not heard about any others.

Masha allah! very nice write up. May Allah bless all women to be like the wives of our prophet insha allah ameen

@ Fehminah Ameen habibty!!!
@ Anjumfarooqui@Anjumfarooqui18 
As saalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu habibty.
I don't know the answer to your question. InshaAllah, I think that it is better to ask somebody that is knowlegdeable for the answer.
As saalamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu.

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