Sep 14, 2009

Last 10 Nights and the Big "M"

Last 10 nights of Ramadan are upon us and I am sure all of us are aware of the virtues of these blessed nights. But I am listing some virtues as a reminder to all of us because Allah (swt) says in the Quran: Surah Dhariyat, verse 55: “And remind for verily, the reminding benefits the believers.”
  • Etiquette of the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) in the last 10 nights: abstain from sexual desires, practice itikaaf and even seclude himself from his wives.
  • Al-Bukhari and Muslim record from 'Aishah that during the last ten days of Ramadan, the messenger of Allah (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would wake his wives up during the night and then remain apart from them (that is, being busy in acts of worship).
  • A version in Muslim states: "He would strive [to do acts of worship] during the last ten days of Ramadan more than he would at any other time."
  • The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would fasten his loin cloth (like rolling sleeves up; meaning he would abstain from approaching his wives even at nights) in these last 10 nights.

During this time we are constantly reminded to engage in nafl salaat comprising of long standing at night and increase our recitation of the Quran. But for some of us, this might be a time when we are going through our menstrual cycle (or post-natal bleeding).

Naturally, it is not easy to stay positive at times, especially when we see the world around us rushing to masajids for taraweeh prayers, indulging in ‘itikaaf and reciting the Quran. This might lead us to feeling deprived of the reward of these blessed nights and decrease our spirituality rather than increasing it.

In this article, I hope to highlight some practical ways in which you can make the best of last 10 nights of Ramadan while going through your menstrual cycle (or post-natal bleeding), without feeling “left out”.

First and foremost, realize that our menstrual cycle is part of Allah (swt)’s creation and something that is ordained by Him (swt).

Allah (swt) tells us in the Quran that He has created us in the best of molds (Surah at-Teen, verse 4). We are also told in the Quran that for everything Allah has "appointed a due proportion” (Surah at-Talaq, verse 2-3) and that "for every matter there is an appointed time given" (Surat ar-Rad, ayah 38).

Thus, to complain about it would be to question the Wisdom of Allah (swt), a’uoodubillah.

Some women think it is more virtuous to fast even though they are on their menses. In their ignorance they make this exception in the month of Ramadan. But rather, they need to realize that it is more virtuous for them to comply with the Command of Allah (swt). It is more rewarding for them to do as they are told by Allah (swt) i.e. not pray or fast while they are on their menses.

Also realize that there are many other ways of achieving spirituality while we are on our menses besides salaah, siyaam and itikaaf.

The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) is reported to have said that, "Dua is the very essence of 'ibadah.” The prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) said, "Allah is in the assistance of [His] servant, as long as the servant aids his brother." He (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) also said, "Whoever feeds a fasting person will have a reward like that of the fasting person, without any reduction in his reward."

Listed below are few suggestions that a muslimah can do while she is not fasting due to menstruation or post-natal bleeding.

Wake up at Fajr time

  • Repeat after the fajr adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Make fajr adhkar:
  • 10 times: “la ilaha ilAllah wahdahu la shareekah la, lahul mulk wa lahul hamd wa huwa ‘ala kulli shay’in qadeer.”
  • Recite ayat al kursi
  • Recite surah Ikhlaas, surah Falaq, surah Nas – 3 times
  • Other adhkar found in Fortress of the Muslim
  • Say the morning adkhar
  • Read an English translation of half-juz of the Quran
Enjoining good: encourage your family to pray Salaat al Duha
The Prophet (sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) called it the salah of the obedient. Reported by Imam Ahmad in his musnad: Abu Hurayrah (radhi Allahu ‘anhu) narrated that the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) would never miss the salat al-awabeen, which was Salat al Duha.

Duhr time

  • Repeat after the duhr adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
Asr time

  • Repeat after the asr adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
  • Read an English translation of half-juz of the Quran
Maghrib time

  • Repeat after the maghrib adhan
  • Help people break their fast by passing out dates and water
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
Isha time

  • Repeat after the isha adhan
  • Make dua between adhan and iqaama
  • Make dua for intercession of prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan
  • Engage in more dhikr and dua
  • Have family circle time at home
  • Have a male member of the house recite the Quran to the rest of the family followed by tafsir of those ayat
Before sleeping

  • Make wudu (this even applies to women with menses)
  • Recite surah Mulk
  • Ask your spouse for forgiveness before sleeping
  • Recite ayat al kursi
  • Make dua and dhikr
Other acts that can be done

At the masjids

  • Spread salaams at the masjid
  • Sponsor iftaars at various masajids if possible
  • Volunteer for masjid clean up afterwards
  • Babysit during Taraweeh so that the mothers (and everyone else!) can pray with khushu' and concentration
  • Make a CD of beautiful Quran recitation and duaas in mp3 and distribute it to people at the masjid
At home

  • Have a qiyaam program for other sisters at your house – prepare iftar and suhoor for them
  • Look for new converts, those who are newly practicing or people who have lost touch with the community and invite them over for iftar and eid
  • Think of eid party ideas/gifts for family, spouse, children, neighbors
In your own time

  • Memorize ayat of the Quran – use online resources
  • Donate everyday – clothes, money
  • Make tawbah and shukr
  • Memorize Allah's names and their meanings
  • Find out who is sick in your area or in the hospital and go visit them
  • Always keep your tongue moist with the dhikr and remembrance of Allah (swt). Say subhanAllah, alhumdulilah, la ilaaha illalha, Allahu akbar and say salaams on the prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) while cooking, cleaning, driving etc. and may Allah make these words heavy on your scaled on the day of judgment.

Some information has been taken from the following sources:
1. Closed Doors and Opened Eyes: Spirituality for the Non-Fasting by Shazia Ahmad
2. A Muslim Day in Ramadan - Morning till Evening; Ilminar by Sh. Riad Quarzazi


great post Jazzakllahu khairin


jazakillah khayr for this! Very beneficial :)

JazakAllah Khair...
In addition to the other beneficial tips, here's another one:
This is what I like to do while I'm online or having lunch :) Tune in here
They have various shyookh (Sh Yusuf Estes, Dr. Zakir Naik, Sh Yassir Fazzaga and more) come in for different programs & also LIVE taraweeh from the haram.

JazakiAllahu khairan for the inspiring and needed piece!

Assalamu alaikum,

Nice blog, the content in this blog is very useful to the people who are looking out for islamic knowledge.

<3<3<3 Shukran jaziilan ~ *TAKBiR*
سبحان الله و بحمده …. سبحان الله العظيم

Mash'Allah great post!

How do I make duaa for intercession of the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wa salam) after the adhan (not that I hear the adhan in my city ;) )???

this was really helpful jzk soo much for this :)

Assalamu alaikum:
Mashallah!! this is very good! My daughter was just asking this the other day, as she is on her menses just started yesterday. Jazakallahu Khairan!

Salam sister, Mash'Allah nice article however I just have to add, that when a woman is on her menses she is forbidden to enter the masjid even to listen to the khutbah, unless she is only passing by or dropping something off:

Salaaam alaikum
mashalaah great tips. may Allah reward you.

Just about one point. when a sister is on her menses she should not be at the prayer area in the masjid.

Thank you for sharing these knowledge. Jazakallah khair, May Allah reward you. Ameen

If I get my Aada in the last 10 days how can I maximize this when I cant do sujud?

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