Jul 21, 2012

Which One Are You?

by Sister Sunshine Smiles

Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi very rightly stated,

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong.”

Strength is not all about the physical ability you hold. Sometimes, it is stronger than that. It is of how well you can control your mind and heart. The real strength is the inner strength.

We all, as human as we are, Err. After all, To err is human, To forgive is Divine.

The world, as it keeps moving has a million faces to catch. Of course, we don’t really have the time to inspect every face but sometimes circumstances brings us face to face with many.

Our experiences may be bitter or sweet. Alhumdulillah for the sweet ones and actually Alhumdulillah for the bitter ones as well. I genuinely feel, the bitter moments are what make you realize what you are really made of. What you wouldn’t, under general circumstances consider at all. So yes, Alhumdulillah to that!

As Ramadan is in, I feel the need to shed light on the baggage we tag with our bitter memories. I call it baggage because that’s what I feel defines it best. The after feelings of bitter moments that leaves us sour. So sour that our instincts mould in that direction, which is absolutely depressing to notice.

Sometimes, what hurts us never mends back. We find a way to sweep it under the carpet but we know it is still very much there, subconsciously alive. And when we encounter instances of the like, we see traits of that memory reflecting itself.

To forgive is divine but that doesn’t give us any right to keep erring and think we will be forgiven anyways. To err is definitely human but to err continuously and consciously is obviously unacceptable to be forgiven each time by our Lord, Allah (SWT).

When I first read that forgiveness is an attribute of the strong, I took it as a challenge. I wanted to be strong, different strong. And believe me I still haven’t mastered it yet. Sometimes, it is easy. But sometimes the intensity of what has hurt us takes a while. Sometimes we don’t want to forgive because we think we are right. We know we are right.

And well, we just maybe! But what is the harm in taking the high road and forgiving first even if we are on the right side. Our XXL sized egos are not going to do us any good anyways. Not in this life, definitely not in the hereafter.

So Sisters, I would suggest you to do the same. Take it up as a challenge because it is a slow one to master and sometimes we may fall back but what matters is that you are trying sincerely. So try and let the baggage go, for the better and you will realize that it wasn’t worth the whole pain and mess in the first place.

As Ramadan is in, The month of mercy and forgiveness, I seek to advice you to look into yourselves. Why?

Because more often than not, we are too busy focusing on other people's mistakes. How they have been doing wrong than focusing on the rest of ourselves. I mean, none of us are perfect and we all know that. So we might as well first fix ourselves up before pointing fingers at others.

Go to the people you have hurt. Find the courage to apologize for what you may have been wrong for. Even if not, do it. It’s not going to kill you. Do it before it may be too late to. Before the damage is far more than thinking of a mend up.

This Ramadan, take the opportunity to beg to Allah the Almighty for forgiveness. To plead to Him to forgive us and the people who hurt us. Repent sincerely for we may be erring unconsciously not to mention the little conscious ones that Shaytan worked up on. We know we are flawed. So let us pray for ourselves and that our sins may be forgiven and let us pray for the better of the people who hurt us. Take the high road, Be the nicer one. Let us pray for the people we may have hurt knowingly or unknowingly because you never know what the number could be or how much in measure you may have hurt them.

I will close this article just the way I started it.

Food for thought:

"The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong”

So, Which one are you?

I'd love to hear your views on this article. Please tell me in the comments section below :)


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