Jun 21, 2011

Giving Others Their Rights

By Maryam Abd Al Ghafur

The Qur'aan is the Speech of Allaah Subhana wa Ta'Alaa to His ibaad, to His slaves. In it, He warns the slaves away from what He dislikes for them and encourages the slaves towards what He likes for them. While only the Muslims believe in it, every word, every letter, and only the Muslims follow what is in it, it is not reserved only for the Muslims; it is for all of the Children of Adam, alayhis salaam.

In the Qur'aan, Allaah 'Azza wa Jall, has a warning for those who want and demand full measure when it comes to them receiving anything but are less stringent when it comes to them giving to others. Allaah is al-'Adl, the Just; His is the perfect Justice. People fall short, but we have a responsibility to fulfill our bonds, our promises, our words to the best of our ability, while having mercy on those around us when they are not able to give what they have promised.

This is especially important in the family base, the wife and husband. We demand our rights from each other, rights given to us by Allaah Ta'Alaa, but if we fall short, well, we aren't perfect. We tried; isn't our trying good enough for the other person?

The problem comes when both parties are excusing themselves and are no longer as willing to overlook the foibles of the other. That isn't love, it isn't mercy, and it certainly isn't conducive to finding tranquility and mercy in each other. The home becomes a sour place, the very walls are grating on one's nerves, and the sleep is not fulfilling. The food fills the stomach, the bed rests the body, the sexual intimacy takes care of the urge, but a feeling of dissatisfaction has crept in and lingers. There is an indefinable 'something' that is missing.

As an experiment, whether you are married or not, try this for one week: Give, to those whom you spend the most time with, without expecting anything in return except Allaah's reward for His obedient ibaad. If you are married, let the first words to your spouse be "Salaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah". Let those be the last words that you say to your spouse at night. Whether married or not, when you first see someone in the course of the day, smile at them. If they ask something of you, do it for them, without grumbling or excuses, and after, ask if there is anything else that you can do for them at the time.

One week. Seven days. Give to others the full measure that you want in return. Think on it, then thank Allaah.

I'd love to hear your views on this article. Please tell me in the comments section below :)


Asalamu alykum warahmatu Allahi wa Barakatu =)

Jazaki Allah Khair sister for this post! May Allah (swt) reward you for every good that comes out of it!!! This is something worthwhile to try inshaAllah. Bi'ithnAllah only good will come of it.

Walaykum asalam wa rahmatu Allahi wa Barakatu

Assalaamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu

This is an amazing reminder and wonderful post. I am married and so looking forward to the next 7 days....insha'Allah putting it into practice constantly.

Jazakallahu Khair

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